Resilience: Moving from being Victims > Survivors > Veterans
For as long as we continue to relate to children who have been bullied as damaged victims, they cannot effectively heal. We need to help children move from feeling like victims to feeling a sense of accomplishment that they have survived bullying experiences. From there we can help them realise that they are now veterans who have come through the tough times stronger and more compassionate then they used to be… So they can help others. This helps children get back on track in life and get their focus on to a bright future rather than on some disappointments in the past or the present.
Recognising bullying as events, not an identity
it’s important for children to view themselves as people who have experienced events of bullying, rather than to associate their identity as being a victim of bullying. By reframing how we talk about bullying so that children view it as specific events on specific occasions, they can separate who they are and their personal identity from the experiences they have had. This helps children feel more optimistic and ready to move on with their life.
These common, unhelpful you are myths need to be challenged in schools
MYTH: Bullying causes your repairable damage
MYTH: Victims are powerless in the face of bullying
MYTH: We should create situations where the bully will apologise to victims
MYTH: Bullies get away with it at my school